Just My Two Pennies Worth
Updated: Dec 31, 2020
In light of Mental Health Awareness week last week (14th - 20th May) I wanted to share some advice. I came across this not too long before I created this website and it really helped me at a time when I needed it but wasn't exactly looking for it.
The advice came as a quote from the author, editor, teacher, advisor, and publisher David B. Schlosser:
'The only writer to whom you should compare yourself is the writer you were yesterday.'
The beautiful thing aboutt his quote it that it can be applied to anyone and any aspect of life.
No matter how much life, or the voice in our heads, tries to bring us down and feel bad about ourselves - you might see someone you believe is better looking than you, more successful, more intelligent, gets that promotion you wanted for so long, or produces and sells a work of art while you are stuck in a creative rut - this quote has your back and takes your side.
It is as though this quote gives you the voice to argue back and say 'no, I am good enough. I am doing my best and will compare myself to my standards only.'
The only mother to whom you should compare yourself is the mother you were yesterday
The only artist to whom you should compare yourself is the artist you were yesterday
The only coworker/manager/assistant to whom you should compare yourself is the coworker/manager/assistant you were yesterday
The only person (or human) to whom you should compare yourself is the person (or human) you were yesterday
This might just be the opinion of one person but I believe that this is one of the best pieces of advice that should be considered by anyone who is having doubts about themselves, are facing doubts from others, or are experiencing/have experienced the phenomenon of Imposter Syndrome.
Why waste time comparing yourself to Picasso, Sir Alan Sugar, Nelson Mandela, or anyone else we could name when it is so much easier (and less punishing) to only compare yourself to who you were the day before?
To think: how can I be better today than I was yesterday? instead of: how can I be more like [insert name here]?
When all is said and done, you are YOU, and that's not a bad thing. In fact, its a great thing!
So celebrate you and, if you want to improve on yesterday, then go ahead.
I hope this advice helps you as much as it has helped me!